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    January 23, 2013                                                                Issue 2-1.23






    (Please be sure to share with your High School colleagues!)

    Did you know that nearly 7000 students drop out of high school every single day? 

    10 Tips you can't ignore when working with Teens 
    by Mr. Rob Kodama, Gurian Certified Trainer

    Teacher, coach and Gurian Certified Trainer Rob Kodama is the Director of Admissions, Marketing, and Public Relations at Crespi Carmelite High School. He is also the head soccer coach and the Director of K-sports Soccer Camps.


    For parents and teachers: 

    1.  It is more important to be his parent than to be his friend. Your teen will have many friends but only one mother and father.  Provide your teen with a constant reminder of right and wrong.
    2.  Discipline, boys seek it.  If they do not have it at home, they will seek it at school, in athletics, in their world, if they are unable to find it, they will continue to search until they do. It is scary to watch some kids struggle and parents who enable them. Teens need the adults in their lives to hold them accountable. 
    3.  Almost everything, but still nothing. The toughest year is often the year they turn 16. They are almost an adult. Most boys are shaving. They see a man in the mirror. They want to be independent yet they are still irresponsible and forgetful. They are fighting for more control. Hold the line and things will be fine. The more you move the line the more difficult it will become. They will want to re-negotiate their rules. Remember that the rules are there for a reason, usually to keep them safe. This is the start of many angry years by young men. Do not promise anything that you can’t deliver. This is a critical time in a young boy's life because it sets the stage for all that he will have to face on his own.
    4.  Surround them with great role models.  Even though parents may be a "rock" in a teen's life, the most influential people may be those a teen can take criticism from and they are more likely mentors and coaches.  Teens hate to disappoint parents and so mentors, teachers, and coaches are a way to seek "good" advice (even though it may be exactly what a parent would say).  
    5. Boys and girls dream differently. Every boy dreams of being a larger-than-life super hero - being the best at something, being indestructible. For many of us as grown men, we still have our favorite superheroes.  Women, on the other hand, usually do not dream of being superheroes because they are not real.  Know that your son needs to guidance and understanding in how to attain the dreams that he is seeking. 

    Teens in Every Culture...are still Teens! 

    Michael Gurian recently shared that his eldest daughter is teaching English at a vocational college in China as a Peace Corps volunteer. She teaches six classes to 17 - 19 year olds (who have very limited English).  Michael reports, "In one of them, she ended up with 20 boys and 3 girls! She didn't know what to do, could not get the boys to settle down and learn, etc. (all the stuff we hear about all the time!) I did a coaching session with her via skype and she instituted some boy-friendly strategies. Check out the results"...


    Hi Dad,

    So today my crazy class was actually one of my best, no longer my worst. 
    I made sure to include lots of pictures and graphics to introduce the family vocabulary, and then we used a family tree diagram for them to practice matching and assigning names to the pictures of family members. They were really engaged in it.
    Then we drew our families and labeled them and introduced them to our partners. They were pretty into that too, adding lots of detail.
    And then I used a video, a Modern Family episode.  They loved that. It is so interesting to see where the different classes laugh. Boys love the "he has his hands in his pants part" and Luke's head stuck in the banister. Its hilarious.
    So...things are way better with this class.  Thank you! 

    Love you all lots!

    G. Gurian

    Peace Corps Volunteer
    Chongqing Three Gorges Vocational College

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    Dakota Hoyt & The Gurian Team

    Gender Insights



    Tips to share with TEENS:

    1.  You are never as abnormal as you think.  "I'm not tall enough, strong enough, mature enough, smart enough, talented enough."  You are not alone but you are enough, just as you are.
    2.  Mistakes do not define you - it’s what you do with them that creates who you are. Identify them, face them, and correct them.   Correcting mistakes builds your character.
    3.  Those who give you the most grief, usually care the most about you.   A coach said, “Do you know why I yell at you so much? It’s because I love you. If I really didn’t care about you, I would just ignore you.” Notice who is giving you grief…and why.
    4. Control what you can control.  It is unrealistic to solve everything, though one can have empathy for others. Focus on what can be controlled and control it - look at what can be solved, not who is at fault or how dire the situation seems to be.  Your ability to control your attitude will get you the best results.
    5. You are always someone’s role model. Many of us think because we are not famous it doesn't matter what we say or do. The reality is that we are all role models throughout our lives.  How many cousins, neighbors, friends are looking up to you without you knowing it?  Who is copying everything you are doing?  

    Thank you, Rob Kodama!
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    9 Shocking Facts about High School Dropout Rates
    from the Alliance for Excellent Education
    1. 12 million students are predicted to drop out in the next decade.
    2.  23 percent of dropouts identified the lack of parental support for the reason they dropped out
    3.  Income of dropout is about $7,840 LESS annually
    Click here for the slide show. 


    Strategies for Teaching Boys & Girls - Secondary Level

    Learn the science of boy-girl learning differences and then be ready to instantly implement the many fun and helpful strategies across the curriculum. 


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    In response to some of the crisis that students are concerned with, we  have listed several resources that may come in use in talking with your children or students.
    http://www.schoolcounselor.org/  This link will take you to the American School Counselor's Association webpage, under "School Shootings" click the Resources word in blue.
    http://www.cmionline.com/free-resources/  This link will take you to the Crisis Management Institute resource page which has many free resources dealing with crisis and grief