Habit 4: Think Win-Win (Everyone Can Win)

Habit 4: Think Win-Win (Everyone Can Win)

  • Principles and Concepts:

    • Win-lose, lose-win, lose-lose, win
    • Win-win, win-win or no deal
    • Mutual benefit, fairness, and abundance



    • Common: There is only so much, and the more you get, the less there is for me.
    • Highly Effective: There is plenty out there for everyone and more to spare.


    • Build your Emotional Bank Account with others.
    • Have an Abundance Mentality


    • Balance courage and consideration.
      • COURAGE:  Willingness and ability to speak your thoughts and feelings respectfully.
      • CONSIDERATION:  Willingness and ability to seek and listen to others' thoughts and feelings with respect.
    • Consider other people's wins as well as your own. 
    • Create Win-Win Agreements.
    • A Win-Win Agreement is created when two or more parties commit to work together for mutual benefit.  It can be formal or informal, written or verbal, and can be made in just about any relationship or circumstance.


    Results (I build rich and rewarding relationships and partnerships.)

    Some results I might expect from living Habit 4 at a higher level are:

    • Faster solutions to problems
    • More team involvement
    • Generosity of spirit
    • Rich relationships


    Books that reinforce Habit 4:  Think Win-Win

    Lower Elementary

    • Alexander and the Wind-Up Mouse by Leo Lionni
    • The Rainbow Fish by Marcus Pfister
    • The Doorbell Range by Pat Hutchins
    • The Very Clumsy Click Beetle by Eric Carle
    • Let's Be Enemies by Janice May Uldry

    Upper Elementary

    • The Butter Battle Book by Dr. Seuss
    • Dragon Stew by Tom McGowen
    • The Checker Players by Alan Venable
    • Hiawatha, Messenger of Peace by Dennis Brindell Fradin