Habit 6: Synergize (Together is Better)

Habit 6: Synergize (Together is Better)

  • Principles and Concepts:

    • Build on strengths
    • The path to conflict
    • Barriers to synergy
    • Path to Synergy
    • Creativity, cooperation, diversity, and humility



    • Common:  Let's compromise.
    • Highly Effective:  Let's come up with something that's better than what either of us has in mind.



    • Value differences
      • Recognize and build on others' strengths, making weaknesses irrelevant.  Synergy is founded on valuing differences.


    • Seek 3rd Alternative
      • A 3rd Alternative is an idea or a solution that goes beyond "your way" and "my way" to a better, higher way that neither of us could have come up with by ourselves.
      • You know you are in synergy when you:
        • Have a change of heart
        • Feel new energy and excitement
        • See things in a new way
        • Feel the relationship has transformed
        • End up with an idea that is better than what you started with.


    Results (We can solve problems and create exciting new ideas together.)

    Some results I might expect from living Habit 6 at a higher level are:

    • Innovation and invention
    • New and better solutions
    • Transformed relationships
    • Appreciation of diverse perspectives


    Books that reinforce Habit 6:  Synergize

    Lower Elementary

    • Ox-Cart Man by Donald Hall
    • Swimmy by Leo Lionni
    • A Chair for My Mother by Vera B. Williams
    • Clifford's Spring Clean-Up by Norman Bridwell
    • How the Second Grade Got $8295.50 to Visit the Statue of Liberty by Nathan Zimelman


    Upper Elementary

    • The View From Saturday by E.L. Konigsburg
    • A Wrinkle in Time by Madeline L'Engle
    • Ruby Holler by Sharon Creech
    • The Chalk Box Kid by Clyde Robert Bulla
    • Chicken Sunday by Patricia Polacco