Habit 1: Be Proactive

Habit 1: Be Proactive (You're in Charge)

  • Principles and Concepts:

    • Reactive vs. proactive responses
    • The freedom to choose
    • Choose your weather
    • Responsibility, choice, accountability, initiative, and respect


    • Common: This is just the way things are and there's not much I can do about it.
    • Highly Effective: I am free to choose and am ultimately responsible for my happiness.


    • Pause and respond based on principles and desired results
      • The four unique human gifts:  
        •  Self-Awareness
        •  Imagination
        • Conscience
        • Independent will
    • Use proactive language
      • "I can."  I'm sorry."  I choose to."  "Let's look at all of our options."  "I will get this done." "There must be something we can do."



    • Focus on your Circle of Influence
    • Circle of Influence - This circle includes those things you can affect directly.
    • Circle of Concern - This circle includes those things you cannot affect directly.
    • Become a Transition Person
      • A highly proactive person can stop the transmission of negative patterns by modeling positive behavior and passing on effective habits that strengthen and build others in positive ways.


    Results (I become the creative force of my life.)

    Some results I might expect from living Habit 1 at a higher level are:

    • Increased influence
    • More self-awareness
    • Greater initiative

    Books that reinforce Habit 1:  Be Proactive

    Lower Elementary

    • Amazing Grace by Mary Hoffman
    • The Little Engine That Could by Watty Piper
    • King Bidgood's in the Bathtub by Audrey Wood
    • The Very Lonely Firefly by Eric Carle
    • The Carrot Seed by Ruth Krauss
    • Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day by Judith Viorst

    Upper Elementary

    • Jeremy Thatcher, Dragon Hatcher by Bruce Coville
    • On My Honor by Marion Dane Bauer
    • Someday a Tree by Eve Bunting
    • Salt in His Shoes:  Michael Jordan in Pursuit of a Dream by Deloris Jordan
    • The Real McCoy:  The Life of an African-American Inventor by Wendy Towie

    Books that reinforce Circle of Influence

    • Inch by Inch by Leo Lionni
    • Mirette on the High Wire by Emily Arnold McCully
    • Mean Soup by Betsey Everitt
    • The Empty Pot by Demi